Monday, March 29, 2010

The worst thing about boys... cleaning the bathrooms. I honestly think the boys must stand facing away from the potty. That's all I can come up with.

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Handsome Boys

Here the boys are modeling their new Easter clothes. John and Andrew were a little more cooperative than Wyatt...but you get the idea! :)

So Thankful

Last week my dear friend sent me this forward. Very few email forwards touch my heart. I don't dislike forwards, but they typically don't move me to tears either. That's not the case for this forward. If you are a mother, and you are feeling at all emotional, don't keep reading. If you are feeling stable (or if you are a glutton for punishment) read on:

(Author unknown)

For the first time in a very long time, I am neither pregnant nor mothering a baby. My "baby" is now two years old. And with a certainty that takes my breath away, I suddenly understand why wise women always told me that the time would go so quickly. To be sure, I've had more "baby time" than most women. My first baby will be 16 in a few days. I still think it's over much too soon.This column is for mothers of infants and toddlers. I am going to attempt to do something I never thought I'd do: I'm going to empathize while not in your situation. My hope is that it is all so fresh in my memory that I can have both perspective and relevance.What you are doing, what you are living, is very difficult. It is physically exhausting. It is emotionally and spiritually challenging. An infant is dependent on you for everything. It doesn't get much more daunting: there is another human being who needs you for his very life. Your life is not your own at all. You must answer the call (the cry) of that baby, regardless of what you have planned. This is dying to self in a very pure sense of the phrase. And you want to be with him. You ache for him. When he is not with you, a certain sense of restlessness edges its way into your consciousness,and you are not at complete peace.If you are so blessed that you have a toddler at the same time, you wrestle with your emotions. Your former baby seems so big and, as you settle to nurse your baby and enjoy some quiet gazing time, you try desperately to push away the feeling that the great, lumbering toddler barreling her way toward you is an intruder. Your gaze shifts to her eyes, and there you see the baby she was and still is, and you know that you are being stretched in ways you never could have imagined.This all might be challenge enough if you could just hunker down in your own home and take care of your children for the next three years; but society requires that you go out - at least into the marketplace. So you juggle nap schedules and feeding schedules and snowsuits and car seats. Just an aside about car seats: I have literally had nightmares about installing car seats.These were not dreams that I had done it wrong or that there had been some tragedy. In my dreams I am simply exhausted, struggling with getting the thing latched into the seat of the car and then getting my baby latched into the car seat. I'm fairly certain anyone else who has ever had four of these mechanical challenges lined up in her van has had similar dreams. It's the details that overwhelm you, drain you, distract you from the nobility of it all.You will survive. And here is the promise: if you pray your way through this time, if you implore the Lord at every turn, if you ask Him to take this day and this time and help you to give Him something beautiful, you will grow in ways unimagined. And the day will come when no one is under two years old.You will - with no one on your lap - look at your children playing contentedly together without you. And you will sigh. Maybe, like me, you will feel your arms are uncomfortably empty, and you will pray that you can hold a baby just once more. Or maybe, you will sense that you are ready to pass with your children to the next stage.This is the place where nearly two decades of mothering babies grants me the indulgence of sharing what I would have done differently. I would have had far fewer obligations outside my home. Now, I see that there is plenty of time for those, and that it is much simpler to pursue outside interests without a baby at my breast. I wish I'd spent a little more time just sitting with that baby instead of trying to "do it all."I wish I'd quieted the voices telling me that my house had to look a certain way. I look around now and I recognize that those houses that have "that look" don't have these children. Rarely are there a perfectly-kept house and a baby and a toddler under one roof. Don't listen to the voices that tell you that it can be done. It should not be done. I wish I hadn't spent 16years apologizing for the mess. Just shoot for "good enough." Cling to lower standards and higher goals. I wish I'd taken more pictures, shot more video and kept better journals. I console myself with the knowledge that my children have these columns to read. They'll know at least as much about their childhoods as you do. I wish I could have recognized that I would not be so tired forever, that I would not be standing in the shallow end of the pool every summer for the rest of my life, that I would not always have a baby in my bed (or my bath or my lap). If I could have seen how short this season is (even if mine was relatively long), I would have savored it all the more. And I wish I had thanked Him more. I prayed so hard. I asked for help. But I didn't thank Him nearly enough. I didn't thank Him often enough for the sweet smell of a newborn, for the dimples around pudgy elbows and wrists,for the softening of my heart, for the stretching of my patience, for the paradoxical simplicity of it all. A baby is a pure, innocent, beautiful embodiment of love. And his mother has the distinct privilege, the unparalleled joy, of watching love grow. Don't blink. You'll miss it.

It would be a good idea to just print and carry this in my pocket and re-read it every time my patience wears thin or I look around at the absolute disaster also known as my den. A little reminder to take it all in.

One of my current "favorite things" is the reaction I get from my boys when I pick them up at the end of the day. I know the day will come where they are "too cool" to run to Mama, but now when they see my car, they drop what they are doing, forget their friends and yell for me with such excitement that it practically brings tears to my eyes. What a feeling! I am so thankful.

Monday, March 8, 2010

Let it Snow

The boys finally got the chance to play in snow, however Ashley and I were in Charleston celebrating Valentine's Day like two adults! Thankfully, the boys got to enjoy the snow and we got pictures from Granny Meg and Pop (who kept the boys while we went out of town)! Wyatt was the only one who did not love the snow. Maybe next year? (Or next time it snows again...which may be when he's in middle school).

Blogger's Block??

I am not sure what has caused my blogger's block, but it has been a long time since I have taken the time to post anything new about what's been going on around here. It's definitely not been from lack of material. Since my last post we had snow, my baby turned 2, we've attended several fun birthday parties and the boys just sang in big church this past Sunday.

The hardest thing for me to believe is that P is actually 2. That's even harder to believe than the 6 inches of snow that fell on Columbia. Where in the world does the time go? Almost all the fat is gone from his thighs now. He speaks in sentences and rides a tricycle. It just seems like this summer when I put him in his pack-n-play with a few toys and he was content while the big boys played in the yard. Now he keeps up with them. Here's my little prince on his big day with "Daddy Terry"...

Look how much he changed since last year! (John has changed a lot too)!!

I hope the next year goes a little more slowly. I am not ready for the baby in the house to turn into a little boy....although I know it's coming.